[meme] things i do not blog about, 2/3
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from aut2003: my ideal guy
(a phrase i would never have expected to appear on this lj, or indeed in anything i would ever write)

Note the given prompt. This is not about the sort of guy I'd be happy or even content with in a relationship, but rather my ~*~ideal~*~ guy, with all the wishful thinking and wholly unrealistic expectations that that implies.

Temperament is key, so let's start there. Laundry-list of attributes:
- Dry sense of humour, quick but not overly cruel wit.
- Relative lack of neuroses/hang-ups/Issues, but not so much that he is a robot. The ability to not take himself seriously, but with some degree of self-awareness as well.
- Introverted nature, but to a lesser degree than me. Someone has to initiate conversation, after all. And when I say 'introverted', I don't mean 'shy but enjoys company', I mean 'is perfectly happy being by themselves, needs to recharge after social events, and so on'. The first definition of introversion is one I personally reject, but I see it being used so much..! Anyway. Yes. He'll have to be socially competent, because one of us has to be.
- Related to the above: independence and lack of clinginess. I suppose he'd have to want me, at least a little, but I don't want to be needed.
- To use the laughably reductive vocabulary of the MBTI, he'll have to be a T, not an F.
- Some measure of kindness/empathy/generosity/not being a completely selfish cold-hearted bastard. But at the same time, no martyrs pls.
- Honesty and frankness, but with tact.
- General laid-back attitude to things, but not to the extent of apathy. He'll have to be interested in the world around him, and in societal issues.
- No chauvinism pls. And no old-fashioned chivalry, either. If he holds open doors it will be out of politeness and nothing more, and there will be no question of him paying for meals.
- Related to the above: a generally enlightened view on things.

And then we segue into opinions and preferences. Ideally he would be an atheist of the non-rabid variety, and hold fairly liberal political views. I wouldn't want us to agree on everything, though -- some intelligent, reasoned debate is required, for which he will also require intelligence and the ability to discuss things in a logical but not completely detached manner. Non-robot-ness is important. Preferences-wise, it would help if he had interesting tastes that overlapped just slightly with mine but included a variety of other stuff, in everything from food to music to anime/manga. Because, yes, my ideal guy would be an anime/manga fan. Sorry.

Finally, the shallow stuff. He'd have to be relatively attractive and in average physical shape, but not incredibly gorgeous or super athletic or anything. Nice warm hands with elegant fingers. A pleasant voice, and a pleasant laugh, and a smile that makes one's heart doki-doki -- but that must apply to the sort of smile which he smiles when he doesn't realise anyone is watching. He will not believe in silly money-wasting 'romantic gestures', but he will be unexpectedly sentimental and capable of some degree of emotion. (But not over-emotional, thanks.) He should be a cat person, and enjoy taking walks outdoors. He should not mind my refusal to wear make-up and skirts, etc. He should also lack a sex drive (ahaha, talk about unrealistic), but be fond enough of relatively chaste physical affection. He should be able to cook, and cook well. :D

In short, my ideal guy would probably be a male, better-adjusted, reasonably attractive, non-robotic, and overall improved version of myself, with added bonuses. Ahahaha um. -_-;; The self-love is strong with this one.